Friday, May 15, 2015

10 ways to communicate with your spouse

Early on in our relationship there was a time when I didn't see the point in talking to my husband (boyfriend at the time) because I didn't feel like he was actually listening. Thankfully we got past that hurdle! Here are 10 ways to better communicate with your spouse:

  1. Don't yell--if you need to take a break from the argument to cool down.
  2. Let your spouse finish talking before you interject with your own comments. 
  3. Think before you speak. 
  4. Make eye contact.
  5. Turn off the TV, phone, etc. and focus completely on them.
  6. Say more positive things than negative regardless of the topic.
  7. Resist the urge to win.
  8. Don't dwell on the past. (this is a big one for us!)
  9. Understand the power of nonverbal communication. It's funny, but it is actually very difficult to fight with your spouse when you are holding hands. Treating your spouse in a loving manner physically, will actually help you to speak to them in a loving way as well.
  10. When your spouse says something rude, or tries to pick a fight don't feed into it. You have the power to decide whether or not a fight actually occurs based on how you respond.
Most of these may seem like common sense, but a lot of the time the things that seem the most obvious are the ones we end up forgetting. Have fun communicating and check out my post on conversation starters for you and your spouse =)

10 ways to communicate with your spouse

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